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I hurt my friend...

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I hurt my friend. I apologised, she forgave me, but our friendship is not the same anymore. 


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You say that you have done something to upset your friend in someway and although you have acknowledged this mistake and apologised to your friend, you feel the friendship is no longer the same. Acknowledging you have made a mistake and apologising is not always an easy thing to do, so well done. It can be difficult when something like this happens in a friendship and your friend may need more time to process what has happened, accept your apology, and move on. Right now, you can continue to be a good friend by letting them know you are there if they would like to talk through how they are feeling. 

Try not to be too hard on yourself, as human’s we make mistakes all the time and this is how we learn and change. You have been brave to acknowledge your mistake and you’re willing to make amends with your friend- give this time. Also, remember that friendships change and evolve all the time and you can only be responsible for your own decisions. Maybe you could talk this through with a trusted adult, a parent, aunt or uncle, who could support you? If you need to talk to someone else, Childline is here to listen whenever you need to chat. Our Childline Listening team can be contacted 24/7, 365 days a year. If you would like a live chat, you can visit the website or you can text us on 50101 or call 1800 666 666. 

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