Pat's Answer

I have anger issues

Your Question

I want to kill myself due to my anger issues, because I can’t control them and I am scared that I will hurt someone. But I want to control it, But I can never do it and I get a sudden feeling that I need to hurt someone when they have done something small to hurt me, it also doesn’t help as I am very sensitive and that can bring my anger levels up to extreme. 

Answer

Hi welcome to Ask Pat, thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your thoughts and how you are feeling. 

You are saying that you want to kill yourself because of anger issues you are having, and you feel that you cannot control these emotions. You are scared that you will hurt someone. You are telling us that when someone hurts you in anyway, even in a small way your anger rises, and you feel that you need to hurt them as well. You are aware that you are sensitive to what others say or do and feel that your feelings of anger can be extreme, but you want to control it. 

We are concerned to hear that you would want to kill yourself because you are afraid that you might hurt someone, and we are sorry to hear you are feeling so angry. You have the right to get support and help for your angry outbursts. You also have the right to feel safe and not be hurt by others. You have the right to be listened to and be heard. Just as others do not have the right to hurt you, you do not have the right to hurt other people. We are wondering if you have spoken to anybody about how you are feeling. This person could be a parent, guardian, friend, teacher, or school counsellor that you trust or feel comfortable talking to. The adults in your life have a responsibility to help and support you through tough times. You have a right to seek professional help too, from a doctor or a counsellor, to share your thoughts and feelings about your anger issues. It is very important for you to find out why you are angry and how to cope positively when you become angry, so that you do not hurt anybody. You should not have to go through this alone.  

It is important for your own mental wellbeing that you get the help and support that you deserve. These are some organisations that could be of help to you: www.jigsaw.ie www.yourmentalhealth.ie ;  www.spunout.ie . You might like to look at their websites. They may help you understand what is going on for you and offer you a direction in how to avail of other supports. The Childline website also has some information which you may like to look at www.childline.ie/how-i-feel/ and www.childline.ie/your-rights/

At Childline, we know sometimes it can be hard to talk face to face with someone you know about how you are feeling. We are here to talk with you whenever you feel like getting in contact with us. You do not have to have a problem to chat with us, and Childline offers you the space to chat about whatever you choose. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66, by texting to 50101 or through our website on www.childline.ie . Childline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The services are free and confidential. We can help you look at some options that may be available to you.

You are very brave and have taken a big step forward to reach out for support. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. We are here to listen, and we would love to talk to you soon. 

 

Take care of yourself,

Pat

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