Alex's Answer

Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.

You have told us that your ex’s parent passed away and has used this as an excuse to re-connect with you, but it has not been consensual. Thank you for being brave and telling us about what is happening for you, this is not a nice situation to be in.

No one has the right to touch you or make you feel uncomfortable, without your consent, no matter what they are going through. We are sorry this has happened to you. While your ex is going through a hard time currently, it does not give him the right to touch you without your permission

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Have you spoken to someone about this? Sometimes it is difficult, but you have the right to feel supported and listened to about what happened to you. Do you have a trusted adult you can talk too?  Adults can help us make decisions on next steps. This could be a parent or guardian, but also could be an extended family member, teacher, or another adult in your life you trust.  

Also, every young person has the right to report sexual assault to the Gardaí. Here are some websites you may find helpful to look at and get more information: Rape Crisis Centre (www.drcc.ie/services/helpline/); Túsla, and the HSE (Health Service Executive) also have information on sexual assault (www.tusla.ie).

If ever you need to talk about it and you don’t know who to go to, know that Childline is here for you. We will listen and support you whenever you need us. You can call us at 1800 66 66 66 or use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie. These services are open 24/7/365. 

We are always here and always listening.  

Take care of yourself,  

Alex