Alex's Answer
I get comfort from my imaginary characters
Your Question
I daydream so often about characters I made up in my head to bring me comfort to the point i sometimes have to remind myself these characters aren’t real. It kind of hurts saying they’re fictional too. I think I would be on my phone so much (6 hours a day) less if I didn’t desperately need to listen to music or just consume content so I can then add them to the made up world in my head. I know I need t stop, but I seriously don’t want to, it makes me happy. I think this is affecting my ability to maintain friendships aswell.
Answer
Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you’ve created a lively world in your mind that brings you comfort. It’s completely normal to daydream and find comfort in imaginary characters, especially during challenging times. Your creativity and the connection you feel with these characters show a powerful imagination.
Getting the balance between your imaginative world and real-life connections can be tricky. It’s important to recognise that your emotions are valid, and it’s okay to find enjoyment in your created space. At the same time, building and maintaining friendships are important aspects of life, who can provide support and understanding which your imaginary world might not offer.
Remember, you’re not alone in these feelings. Many people go through similar experiences of escapism. Consider opening up to someone you trust about your thoughts and emotions. Perhaps a friend or an adult like an aunt or uncle, or maybe a teacher if you feel you can’t talk to a parent/carer. They might offer useful perspectives and support. Exploring your options and finding a balance between your imaginative world and real-life connections can enhance both aspects of your life. Here are two articles from the Childline website which you may find helpful www.childline.ie/what-to-do-if-you-are-lonely-or-feel-like-you-have-no-friends/ and www.childline.ie/do-you-struggle-to-make-friends-here-are-a-few-things-that-might-help/.
If you would like to reach out and talk to us some more, our Childline Team are here to help and support you too. We do not judge, and we can explore some options with you. You can contact us any time of the day or night, the Childline Listening service never closes, we are here for you 24/7/365. Our free-phone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie.
Remember, you do not have to go through this journey on your own. Reach out for support when you feel ready. Take care of yourself,
Alex
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