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I feel so sad all of the time

Your Question

I feel so sad all the time that I have a constant pain in my chest and I feel heavy wherever I go. The pain is so much that it makes me suicidal. I’m only 14, I don’t know what to do. Is this related to an undiagnosed depression?


Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Pat,   

Thank you so much for trusting us with your thoughts. We know it can be difficult, but we also know how great it is for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward. 

We are sorry to hear you are feeling sad all the time. You say you have a constant pain in your chest and feel heavy wherever you go, and this pain is making you feel suicidal. You don’t know what to do.  

We are concerned that you are feeling suicidal and seem to have so much going on for you right now.  You are taking the right steps in reaching out and seeking help. That is such a brave thing to do. You have a right to get help and support for everything you have mentioned. You think that maybe your feelings are related to undiagnosed depression, how would you feel talking to someone about this? Would there be a trusted adult that you could go to? This adult could be a parent, an aunt, uncle, or grandparent. We know that it can be hard to open up to someone who is close to us, so maybe talking to somebody outside of your family who you are comfortable talking to might work better for you at first. 

You have the right to receive medical help and access advice that will help you. Getting in touch with someone who can help you with your thoughts and feelings that you are experiencing, is very important to start your healing.  While all your thoughts are valid, it is important for your mental wellbeing that you get the help that you deserve. There are organisations that might be of help to you.   are just some websites that you might like to have a look at, which could help you understand what is going on for you or they may be able to offer direction in which way you can avail other supports. The Childline website has some articles too, which you can have a read through  

Please know, that you do not have to go through this alone. If you feel you cannot talk to somebody that you know just yet, then Childline is here for you and we really would love to listen to you. At Childline we are focused on you and what is important to you. The services are free and available twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. The team do not judge anything you say but will listen to everything you wish to share. You can contact us through our telephone service 1800 66 66 66, through our text service on 50101, or by web chat that you access through the website  

We hope that you find some of the above helpful. Remember you have already made a great attempt in reaching out and describing what’s going on for you.    

We hope to hear from you soon. Take care of yourself,   


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