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I fantasise about men, am I gay

Your Question

If all my fantasies while masturbating are about having oral sex with men and I get very excited just thinking about it could I be gay


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex,
It’s important to recognise that exploring your feelings and fantasies is a natural part of growing up, and it’s brave of you to seek answers and understanding. You’re still discovering your identity and what you’re comfortable with, and that’s completely okay. It’s important to remember that sexual orientation is a complex and personal aspect of your identity that can take time to fully understand.
There are several support services that can provide guidance, information, and a safe space to discuss your thoughts and feelings. Three such services include:
1. BeLonG To Youth Services: BeLonG To is an organization that provides support to LGBTQ+ young people in Ireland. They offer a range of resources, workshops, and counseling services to help you navigate your feelings and questions about your sexual orientation.
2. is a youth information website that covers various topics, including sexual orientation and identity. They have articles, videos, and forums where you can learn more and connect with others who may be going through similar experiences.
3. ReachOut Ireland: ReachOut is a mental health organization that offers online resources and information for young people dealing with a wide range of issues, including questions about sexual orientation. They have articles and a supportive online community where you can seek advice and share your concerns.
It’s important  to remember that you are not alone in this journey, and there are people and resources available to support you. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always contact Childline, freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or access our Live Chat service at Childline is a confidential and non-judgmental support service open 24/7, and we are here to listen and help you with any questions or concerns you may have.
Remember, it’s okay to explore your feelings and seek support as you navigate your own unique path towards self-discovery.
Look after yourself, and please get in touch whenever you feel ready to talk.

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