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How do I stop the urge to hurt myself?

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how do I stop the urge to hurt myself


Hi there, and welcome to Ask Alex.  

Thanks so much for reaching out with your question. We know that it can be difficult to talk about our feelings, so well done for getting in touch with us.  

You have asked how you can stop the urge to hurt yourself. It can be scary and overwhelming to have thoughts of wanting to hurt yourself so we are sorry to that is what you are experiencing at the moment. 

We want you to know that you’re not on your own and you don’t have to deal with this by yourself. Do you know that here at Childline, we firmly believe that talking makes us stronger, and it shouldn’t be seen as something to be scared about? Have you tried talking to a trusted adult about feeling or thinking this way? Talking to your parents, another family member or a trusted adult around you may be incredibly helpful for you. If you cannot think of anyone who you could talk to or if you don’t feel comfortable bringing it up with people you know, know that Childline is always there for you to listen and support you, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can call for free on 1800 666666 or use the Live Chat in the website .  

We believe it’s incredibly important for you to get the right support for your urge to self-harm, and remember, you have a right to receive healthcare. There is nothing be embarrassed about – we don’t believe there is any shame in asking for help and support. It’s okay to be not okay and no one expects you to be perfect. The people who care about you would prefer to be able to provide you with support rather than have you struggle and suffer alone. You may find this article informative: 

You might consider contacting Pieta House ( which offers support to those who have thoughts of self-harm. You’ll find plenty of useful information on their website and they may even be able to support you around confiding in a trusted adult so you can get whatever healthcare you may need and deserve.  

Well done for being so brave and reaching out.  

Thanks again for getting in touch and please take care.  



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