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Her voice is still in my head

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I Don’t know what to do. 3 years ago now I was friends with this girl, she wasn’t the nicest to me she was quite controlling actually but even though she has been out of my life for 3 years now it like her voice is still in my head telling me what I can and can’t do, but it’s not always the same voice because there’s another voice that tells me much worse things like I don’t belong here it used to happen only sometimes but its happening much more often now and I don’t really know what to do because it’s making me feel really bad about my self. I’m not shur how to tell my mum and dad about this, I’m just worried it will get out of control.


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex
We want to let you know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. It’s tough when past experiences still linger in our minds and affect our present thoughts and emotions. It sounds like you’ve been carrying the weight of these voices for quite some time, and that can definitely take a toll on your self-esteem and overall well-being.
It’s important to recognise that the voices you hear aren’t a reflection of who you are or what you deserve. You have every right to feel happy, confident, and valued. While it’s understandable to feel hesitant about opening up to your parents, it could be beneficial to confide in them about what you’re going through. Parents care about their children and want to support them through any challenges they may face.
Additionally, reaching out to a trusted adult, counsellor, or mental health professional can provide you with the guidance and support you need to work through these difficult feelings. You don’t have to go through this alone. There are people who genuinely want to help you feel better and develop strategies to manage those negative voices.

If you feel you are not ready to talk to somebody you know yet, that’s ok. The Childline Team are here for you. You can talk to us anonymously by phone or web chat. The services are open 24-hours a day, every day. The service never closes. You can talk and we will listen to you. We will not judge you and we will explore what options are available to you. Our 24-hour freephone number is 1800 66 66 66 and our web chat is through Live Chat on our website 

Remember, it’s okay to reach out for help and prioritise your mental health. You deserve to feel happy and confident in yourself. If you ever need someone to talk to, the Childline team is here for you. You’re not alone in this, and there are brighter days ahead.
Look after yourself,

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