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Friends are excluding me

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My friends have recently have been excluding me by meeting. Idk that this is bullying.  A while back I might have said something but she took it out of context and said something completely different, so of course I said that wasn’t true but said sorry  and she accepted and I said it again like lots of times but for some reason she’s bringing.  it up again but I’ve already apologised. So what do I do? They have been excluding me. and is standing up against me. They are also acting like nothing happens later and trying to be my friend. What should I do? 

Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex.
 
You have been very brave reaching out to Ask Alex, and we am sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time with your friends. You are not alone in having your words misunderstood, but you have been graceful in apologising.
 
It sounds like you would like to move past this misunderstanding. What would it be like to ask to talk to the friend who is bringing it up again? It sounds like she might be hurt despite her saying it is ok. What would it be like if you gave your friend a moment to explain how she is feeling? You could ask her what she needs from you to move past this.
 
We’re sorry to hear that you are being excluded like this, and we can confirm that this can be a form of bullying. You have a right to feel safe and included with your friends. How would you feel about confronting those who are excluding you and explaining how it is making you feel? Friendships can be hard to maintain, and sometimes friends can see things differently. This article may be helpful www.childline.ie/what-is-social-exclusion/.
 
It’s also essential to consider finding new activities or groups where you feel valued and included. Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals can help build your confidence and provide a positive outlet for your energy.
 
It is important that you remember that you are not alone in this. Do you have a trusted adult in your life you could chat to about this? A parent, another family member, or even a teacher, may be able to support you and guide you.
 
Remember, Childline is always here for you as well. The Childline team will provide a non-judgmental listening ear, and you can call us for free on 1800 66 66 66 or chat online through Live Chat at www.Childline.ie. You are never alone; the Childline team are here for you, to support you and explore your options with you. We are open 24 hours a day, every day.
 
Thank you for contacting Ask Alex. Reach out for the support you deserve soon,
Alex

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