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Feelings never validated

Your Question

What do  you do if you feel like no matter what you do, your feeling aren’t validated and you’re not enough? And I feel so alone and like I can’t trust anyone? The grammar in this question is horrible but I really need help because I don’t want to get to the pointless where I do something I’ll regret later 


Hi there, thank you for contacting Ask Alex. 

We are so sorry to hear that this is how you feel, and we are proud of you for reaching out to us for support and guidance! 

Have you shared how you are feeling with anyone else in your life? Someone that may be able to listen to you, help you feel more confident in yourself and help you see that you are enough exactly as you are? Do you have an adult you trust in your life who you may be able to go to? This could be a parent, friend, another family member or even a teacher! 

Letting people, we know and trust how we feel can often be very helpful in our journey moving forward and make us feel better.  

We are worried that you mention “do something I’ll regret later”, because your wellbeing is so important to us. Feeling low about yourself is something lots of children experience and it can be normal process of growing up. However, it’s important if you feel like you might do something you may regret or do something when you are not in the right frame of mind, that you get the right support you need now, before you reach this stage.

You do not have to go through this alone and you deserve to be seen and heard in your feelings and emotions.  If you are every feel unsafe at home or that you may be in direct risk or harm, please contact emergency services at 999 or 112. 

Here are some articles to help give you some tools to practise self-care and improve your overall wellbeing.  

Remember, it’s okay to be different and to accept yourself just the way you are.  Here is another article to help you be kinder and more compassionate to yourself, you are doing your best:  

It’s important to know that at any time you can call Childline, a space for you to be listened to in a non-judgemental manner. At Childline we are focused on you and what is important to you. You can contact us through our free phone service, the number is  1800 66 66 66 or alternatively you can chat with us through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at 

We are so proud of you for reaching out, look after yourself,



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