Alex's Answer

Hello and welcome to Ask Alex. Thanks for getting in touch with your question.

 

You’re asking how to deal with getting left out, and this must be a really difficult time for you. We’re sorry to hear that. We wonder who it is that’s making you feel this way? Is it friends or family members?

 

When people act this way, it says more about them than it does about you, as it’s very hurtful behaviour. Has this happened once, or a few times? If it’s happened once, maybe you could speak to that person and let them know how you’re feeling. Maybe they weren’t aware that’s how you were feeling, and they have an explanation for it? If it has happened more than once, you may like to read this article from the Childline website www.childline.ie/how-to-know-when-youre-in-a-toxic-friendship-group/.

 

Perhaps you could join a sports club, youth group, or a craft group to make friends with people who have similar interests to you? We understand that putting yourself out there can feel very uncomfortable but is often worth it in the end! You can also think of the positive things about yourself and become more confident in who you are. This can really help our mood and how we respond in difficult situations like this. This article may be helpful for making new friends www.childline.ie/what-to-do-if-you-are-lonely-or-feel-like-you-have-no-friends/.

 

Have you been able to speak to someone you trust about how you’re feeling? Sharing our thoughts can be really helpful as it can make sure we can get the support we need. Is there a family member, teacher, or youth worker that you could chat to?

 

You can always contact us here at Childline if you’d like to chat a bit more. We offer a free, non-judgmental listening service and are available 24/7. You can contact us by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or via Live Chat at childline.ie. We’d love to hear from you!

 

Look after yourself, and know that you are not alone. Childline is here for you, any time for any reason,

Alex