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Feeling frustrated and annoyed

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Hi! So basically im learning piano right? Well I’m left handed and thought it’d be easier if I learn don’t stop believing by journey first because the right hand does easy stuff while left hand is more complex. But the left hand part is so hard I need both my hands to do it! And I can’t even do it with both! I try but I cant. It just doesn’t sound like music. It sounds like : (the letters are the notes) A+F …………….. G+C#……………Bb F# Bb f# ………………….F+C#” .. You get it.but basically I need help. I can’t get a tutor because they cost money, and my only friend who knows piano lives in far away.  He is an online friend anyways and we’ve lost contact due to my dad. My dad can’t teach me because he only knows guitar and drums.and my other friends are just copying me. I play piano she plays piano, my favorite color is blue her favorite color is blue, I’m creative she’s creative, basically she’s jealous of me. But anyways, my cousin plays piano but I don’t live near her and she doesn’t know don’t stop believing. so I just need a friend who can actually play piano and can play full songs with both hands. Not babies, not someone somewhere else. But I can’t find one. I’m frustrated its just annoying. Can you give me some advice? 

Answer

Hi there and thank you for contacting Ask Alex,
 
It seems like there are three different things going on for you here, so let’s explore each of them. Firstly, well done for your determination in wanting to learn piano. It is not an easy undertaking, as you have mentioned in your message, but it seems you have great determination to succeed. Well done for not giving up. It can cause great frustration when we are trying to succeed at something, but again, well done for not giving up. You talked about not being able to get a tutor due to cost. Have you explored this with your dad or another adult in your life? You also talked about your cousin who plays piano, but she does not know the song and does not live nearby. Have you spoken with her about the difficulties you are having around learning the piano? Maybe she can give you some advice or help you learn some other songs via video call. Have you thought about utilising an online streaming service where others may have uploaded videos on how to successfully learn the song you are trying to achieve?
 
The second thing you mentioned in your message is losing contact with your online friend due to your Dad. We wonder here, how is your relationship with your Dad, and what happened between you and your online friend? Have you spoken to a trusted adult in your life, like extended family, a teacher, etc., about what has happened here?
 
The third thing we are curious about is your friendship with the other girl you mentioned. You talk about her copying everything you do and feeling she is jealous of you. Have you spoken to her about your feelings around your friendship with her? We wonder if you have reflected upon whether this is a positive friendship. A positive friendship contains some important ingredients: trust, loyalty, common interests, respect, someone to have a laugh with, and is fun to be around, someone who makes us feel good about ourselves.
 
Finally, you talk about wanting a friend who can play piano. We wonder if there is a local youth group or music group in your area where maybe you could meet someone likeminded?
 
If ever you need to talk about it and you don’t know who to go to, know Childline is here for you. We will listen and support you whenever you need us. You can call us at 1800 66 66 66 or use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie. We are open 24-hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. We are a confidential space for young people to talk about whatever is going on for them without judgment.
 
Thank you again for reaching out to us, we hope we have helped you in some way. Don’t stop believing in yourself! We won’t either,
Alex

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