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Don't want to be in my own home

Your Question

hi what do i do if i dont want to be in my own home because of my parents


Hi there, 

Thanks for reaching out to us here at Ask Alex. It sounds like you may be having a challenging time at home and we appreciate how hard that can be. You say that you don’t want to be in your own home because of your parents; that can feel really isolating.

Every family experiences challenges and tension at times and it is your parents’ job to look after your emotional needs. We want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and loved by your family.  

Open communication can be a powerful first step. If it feels safe, consider talking to your parents about how you’re feeling. They may not realise the impact their actions are having on you, and expressing your emotions could lead to positive changes in your relationship. Remember, it’s okay to ask for what you need from them, whether it’s more understanding, support, or space.
Additionally, seeking support from a trusted adult outside the family can provide a different perspective and valuable guidance. This could be a teacher, school counsellor, relative, or another responsible adult you feel comfortable talking to. They can offer support, listen without judgment, and help you explore potential solutions to improve your situation. 

You haven’t shared your age in your message but it is important to know that in Ireland, the legal age for leaving home is 16 with parental consent. Túsla, the Child and Family Agency offer supports to families who are in difficult situations. They may be able to offer some guidance to you in exploring your options. They have a website that was made for young people by young people called, if you would like to take a look. The young people who created the website have experience with Túsla services and give an insight into the help they have received. 

We want you to know that you do not have to deal with these challenges alone. The Childline team offer a confidential listening service 24/7 if you want to contact us. Our free phone service can be called on 1800 66 66 66. You can also chat with us through our webchat service by clicking the purple Messenger circle at 

Remember, you don’t have to face these challenges alone, and reaching out for help is a courageous step towards creating positive change in your life. Thanks for contacting us and know that we are always here for you.  

Look after yourself,


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