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Disappointing everyone

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Greetings!! Recently, I haven’t been feeling exactly myself. It feels like I’ve disappointed everyone. All I see are the negative stuff about me. For example, I let people take advantage of me, I sexualize myself, I lie too much, and I don’t feel as much sympathy for others as I used to. I’m scared that I would ruin my future, I’m just a teen. I can’t understand myself that much, I’m sorry. What can I do?

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Hey there! Thanks for getting in touch.
 
First off, it’s courageous of you to reach out. Feeling like you’re disappointing everyone and seeing only the negatives about yourself can be really tough. Remember, you’re not alone in this. Many young people go through phases where they struggle to understand themselves and their actions.
 
Feeling like you’re being taken advantage of, sexualising yourself, lying, and lacking empathy are all things that can stem from different experiences and emotions. It’s important to remember that your actions don’t define your worth as a person. You’re still discovering who you are and what values matter most to you.
 
One step you can take is to try and understand why you’re feeling this way. Talking to a trusted adult, counsellor, or someone you feel comfortable with can help you explore these feelings and understand them better. Also, practicing self-care and setting boundaries can help you regain a sense of control and self-respect. These articles from the Childline website may be helpful to you www.childline.ie/5-ways-to-practice-self-care-every-week/ and www.childline.ie/how-to-set-boundaries-in-different-areas-of-your-life/.
 
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. You’re not expected to have all the answers, especially at this stage in your life. Take things one step at a time and be kind to yourself along the way.
 
And if you ever feel like you can’t talk to someone you know just yet, remember that Childline is here for you, 24/7. You can reach out to us anytime, either by phone at 1800 66 66 66 or through our Messenger service at www.Childline.ie, by clicking on the purple chat circle and beginning a chat.
 
We’re here to listen, support you, and help you explore your options, always in a non-judgmental and confidential space. You’re never alone in this journey.
 
Please take care of yourself, and know that you deserve support to help you feel better about yourself, and know your worth,
Alex

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