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Can my mam check my phone

Your Question

do you think it’s okay for my mam to go through my phone but i don’t want her to and she read all my personal messages to friends


Hey there, welcome to Ask Alex!
You are wondering if it’s ok for your mam to go though your phone.
It’s completely understandable to feel uneasy about your mam going through your phone, especially when it comes to reading your personal messages with friends. Your phone is like your personal space, and it’s important to have some privacy, especially as you’re growing up and navigating your own social world. Feeling like your privacy is being invaded can be really tough, and it’s okay to feel frustrated or upset about it.
It’s possible that your mam might be worried about your safety online, which is a valid concern. Sometimes parents can be overly cautious because they want to protect you from potential risks or dangers on the internet.  There are lots ways for parents to keep you safe online like having open conversations about online safety, setting clear boundaries, and using parental controls or monitoring apps if necessary.
It might be helpful to have a calm and honest conversation with your mam about how you feel. Let her know that while you understand her concerns, you also value your privacy. Finding a compromise that ensures both your safety and your privacy is important for building trust and maintaining a healthy relationship with your mam. Here is an article from the Childline website which may be helpful
Remember, if you ever need someone to talk to about this or anything else, Childline is here for you. You can always reach out to us by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at We’re here to listen, support you, and explore your options without judgment, 24/7. You’re not alone, and we’re here for you anytime you need us.
Look after yourself, and keep safe,

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