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Becoming a better person

Your Question

How do I become a better person? In friendships i always am a manipulator, a mean and greedy person. and i always want the best for me.


Hi there! 

Thank you for getting in touch with us in Ask Alex. Firstly, we would like to say how extremely brave it is of you to get in touch and look for help. What we’re hearing from your question is that you feel like you are not a good person as you put your needs before everybody else’s. 

Recognising these tendencies is already an enormous step towards becoming a better person and making a change where you think a change is needed. Have you thought about taking time to reflect on your actions, thoughts, and motives? Sometimes it can help to try to understand why you behave the way you do and what causes these feelings and tendencies. 

Talking to a friend or a trusted adult about your feelings, can be helpful in exploring your thoughts with somebody else. Sometimes talking to a friend or a family member can make us feel better or help us understand our actions and feelings. This article on building healthy friendships may be helpful

The Childline team is always here if you need to talk Our free phone service number is 1800 66 66 66. You can also chat to us through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle on 

Know that you do not have to face anything on your own. Your feelings are valid, and you have the right to get support whenever you need it.

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