Pat's Answer
To Pat / 1 May 2020
Topic: Anxious and pessimistic
Your Question
I think I used to be fairly well liked in my class. However this year the my self esteem has dropped. I’m embarrassed to tell my mum but I’m anxious and pessimistic. A girl in my class keeps sending me WhatsApp messages making arguments with me, then turns everyone against me and I’m left feeling so so so isolated :(. I thought staying at home would help but last week she unblocked me just to tell me how horrible I was then blocked me again. I cry and cry when no body looks. At football a girl spread a rumour that I’m transgender because I’m a girl with a pixie cut. I’m really anxious and now my best friend is in hospital fighting for her life. I cant handle everything and I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I have moments where everything goes so fast and there is a ringing in my ear and I get so frustrated. I hate telling people how I feel. My teacher has been helpful but now I’m all by myself I’m confused and so so anxious. Thank you for listening and just taking the time to read
From Pat / 6 May 2020
Answer
Welcome to Ask Pat,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what is going on for you. It sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment. It is understandable that you would feel upset and overwhelmed. You say you are embarrassed to tell your mam but you do have the right to support and to share what is going on for you. You say you think you used to be liked in your class but it sounds like you do not feel this way anymore. Nobody has the right to be mean to you, whether that is in person or by text and no one has a right to make things up about you and spread rumors.
It sounds like you are trying to juggle a lot right now. You are keeping this all to yourself, you are worried about your friend who is fighting for her life and you appear overwhelmed with all you are going through. It is understandable that you have the moments where you feel physical signs of what you are going through. It sounds like when you were in school you had support from a teacher, however with the restrictions in place you are not able to access that support now.
You mention that you cannot handle everything you are going through by yourself and you do not have to. You have the right to share what is going on for you with a trusted adult and talking to a trusted adult can help a young person to explore their thoughts and feelings further. If you do not feel like there is a trusted adult in your life that you can talk to at the moment, there is always the option of contacting Childline, who are here to listen.
Our Childline website has further information that you may find helpful, in the section called ‘Info and Advice’ there are a number of sections that you might find useful and relevant to what you are feeling, and they provide further support and links to other resources.
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Remember when you talk to Childline, you can talk through your thoughts, feelings and options. Childline do not judge what you say and your chat can stay confidential. You can call us, text us, or web chat us, with all the contact details available on this website.
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You have been so brave in making contact with us about what is going on for you. You do not need to be going through this by yourself.
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Take care,
Pat.