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Am I transgender

Your Question

Hi Alex, Alex I need your help!!! I feel like a boy? (It’s hard 2 explain!!) And I used to use all pronouns and now I’m using he they, would I be trans gender? I’m a girl at birth!! 

Answer

Hi there,   

Thank you for reaching out to us in Ask Alex.  It sounds like you are questioning your gender identity. Well done for reaching out to us about this.   

Gender identity is defined as a personal and internal sense of yourself as male, female, or other; while your gender expression is how you chose to publicly present your gender, for example, through your clothing, hair, make-up, and body language.  

It is understandable that this may seem confusing or hard to explain for you. It sounds like you enjoyed expressing your gender using all pro-nouns however using ‘he’ and ‘they’ have become to feel more comfortable to you. This may be due to a personal and internal sense of yourself as transgender, however we can’t say for sure, as it is very personal to you.  

Transgender people often describe their realisation of their gender as a journey, and that there isn’t just one criteria to be met or one moment of realisation. How do you think you would feel about being transgender and what would it mean for you? You have the right to live a rich and fulfilling life as whatever gender is right for you and to express this gender in whatever way feels comfortable for you.  

It is important for you to have someone to talk to about this. Is there an adult that you trust that you feel comfortable talking to? How would you feel opening up to them about your feelings? You have been very brave in asking the Ask Alex team, so now that you have ‘got it out’, it may be easier for you to talk to someone you know. 

TENI – The Transgender Equality Network Ireland – teni.ie/supports/ – provide advice and support to transgender people and their family and friends. There is also help and support provided by LGBT lgbt.ie/ and BeLongTo – www.belongto.org/ provide support to young people specifically.  

Remember that Childline is always here for you too, if you want to talk about this further You can phone us for free on 1800 66 66 66or reach out and chat to us through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle on www.childline.ie. Childline is a non-judgmental and confidential service, so it is a really safe space to talk. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. 

We hope you have found this answer helpful. Remember, you are never alone. We are always here for you, any time for any reason. Look after yourself,

Alex

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