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Am I gay

Your Question

I asked my friend would he like to put his hands down my underwear, he said yes and after he did, we made out and had sex when we were naked, does this mean I am gay? (I am male as well and he is male) 


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex and thanks for reaching out.

It sounds like this is a time when you are exploring your sexuality, as it appears you are attracted to your male friend. Having questions about your sexuality is common, particularly in teenage years and early adulthood.

This can be an exciting time and can also be a confusing time, as we can be different from our friends in who we are romantically attracted to. Remember, different does not mean bad.

It is important to know that every person has the right to ask these questions and explore what feels right for them in a safe way.

Have you ever visited the following websites:, or These are organisations that support LGBTQI+ youth. There are a lot of articles on these websites that may help you in clarifying your sexuality and identity.

Don’t forget that you can always contact Childline on 1800 66 66 66 to talk about what is going on for you. We are here 24 hours a day, and you can also contact our Live Chat service through

While we do not tell you what to do here at Childline, we are here to listen to you and support you. We can help you explore the options that are available to you in a way that suits you best.

We hope you do find the above helpful.

All the best,

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