Alex's Answer

Abused by my boyfriend

Your Question

Why do I want to be abused physically and emotionally by my boyfriend?


Hey there, thanks for getting in touch!
Firstly, welcome to Ask Alex. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and talk about such difficult feelings. We’re really glad you’ve reached out, and we want you to know that you’re not alone. Many people struggle with similar thoughts and feelings, and it’s ok to ask for help and support.
Feeling drawn to someone who mistreats you, whether it’s emotionally or physically, can be really confusing and painful. Sometimes, it can stem from low self-esteem or past experiences that have shaped your understanding of relationships. It’s important to remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and love in any relationship. This article from the Childline website may be of help to you
We want you to know that there are people who care about you and want to help. Organisations like Childline are here specifically for young people like you. We offer confidential support, and we’re available 24/7, 365. Whether you want to talk on the phone (1800 66 66 66) or online (click on the purple Messenger circle at, we’re there to listen and support you as you learn to understand how to manage your feelings and explore your options.
Please remember, you deserve to be in a safe and healthy relationship, and there are people who can help you get there. Talking to an adult you trust is important. They can guide you to professional support where you can learn and understand why you are having these thoughts of wanting to be abused.
Take care of yourself, and know that you are valued and have support,

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