Summary
It can be hard when it feels like your sibling gets more attention, gifts, or special treatment during the holidays. Here’s why this might happen, and what you can do to feel better.
Christmas is meant to be a time of joy, but sometimes it can feel stressful, especially if you notice differences between what you and your sibling receive. Maybe they get more presents, more expensive gifts, or seem to be the center of attention. Feeling upset or left out is completely normal when things seem unfair.
There are many reasons why this might happen, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re loved any less. Let’s look at why these differences occur and what you can do to manage those feelings.
Remember that “fair” doesn’t always mean “equal.”
Sometimes parents spend differently based on age, interests, or needs. It might look uneven, but often there’s a reason behind it.
Focus on what you do have.
It’s easy to compare, but try listing things you enjoy about the holidays, like having some down time, nice traditions, or special treats.
Avoid turning it into a competition.
Comparing gifts can make you feel worse. Try to enjoy what you have without measuring against your sibling.
Create your own holiday traditions.
Plan something fun for yourself like drawing, watching your favorite movie, going for a walk with a friend. This can make the season feel special in your own way.
Key takeaways
- Feeling upset when things seem unfair is normal.
- Differences in gifts or attention don’t mean you’re loved less.
- Focus on what makes the holidays special for you.
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