Summary
If your parents decide to separate or divorce, it can be a difficult time full of lots of upheaval and different emotions. This article will help you to explore and understand separation and divorce a bit better, and know what to expect if your parents decide to separate.
Sometimes, couples make the decision that being together is no longer the right choice for them. This can be a difficult time for everyone involved.
If a couple gets a divorce, this means they are no longer married. They are then free to get married again if they choose to.
If a couple separates, they agree that they no longer want to be together. A couple can apply to get a divorce after they have been separated for a certain length of time.
There are some important things to remember if your parents or guardians decide to divorce or separate:
It is not your fault
There are lots of different reasons why couples decide that they no longer want to be together. Whatever they decide, it is important to know that their divorce or separation is not your fault.
This might not be the end
A separation may or may not be the very end of a relationship.
Is this the best thing for all?
Sometimes, a separation or divorce is the best thing for everyone and will mean everyone can have a better life.
Changes at home
You are likely to experience a lot of different feelings when a divorce or separation happens. You might feel angry, sad, confused or something different.
It may be hard at the beginning to understand what changes will happen in your life as a result of the divorce or separation. You are likely to have lots of questions.
Your parents or guardians are likely to have worked out some of the changes that will happen. If they can’t agree, then a mediator, lawyer, or social worker, might help them to come up with a plan that will work.
It is important that you talk about how you feel and what you would like to happen. It can take time to get used to changes, but you are not alone and you can get support.
Some of the changes you might experience are:
Living arrangements
You might live with one parent or carer instead of two.
Moving house
You might move house, or you might live between two houses.
Changing school
You might end up changing school.
Making different friends
You might make new friends at a new school, house or neighbourhood and you might not see your old friends as much.
Routine
You might find that you have a new routine.
You have a right to support
- If you are confused or upset about a divorce or separation, it is important that you remember you have a right to get help.
- Is there a trusted adult you can talk to about how you feel?
- Childline is always here to listen to you and support you.
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Rainbows Ireland is a free service for children and young people experiencing loss following bereavement and parental separation. Click the link above to see if there is a centre in your area.
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Key takeaways
- It’s never your fault if your parents decide to separate.
- Often, even though it’s really hard, separation is the best thing for everyone.
- If your family is going through this, it may mean a lot of changes in your life that you can prepare for.
- You have a right to get help and support if you are feeling confused and upset.
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