Alex's Answer

Hi, welcome to Ask Alex.  

Thank you for contacting us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share our worries and concerns, but we also know how important it is to talk about how we are feeling so this is a very brave step for you to take.  

You are asking why toxic people act not toxic and why they leave after an argument. You wonder why they make you cry for hours, days, weeks and years on and you have said that want to kill yourself without a real reason to kill yourself. It sounds like there is a lot going on for you at the moment and we are sorry to hear you are having a difficult time. It can be really hard to understand why other people behave the way they do but it is important that you know that no one has the right to make you cry for hours, days, weeks and years on. You are very important and deserve to feel happy.  

Have you been able to talk to a trusted adult about how you are feeling? This adult could be a parent, aunt, uncle, older cousin, or youth worker? It is really important that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. 

We would be very concerned to hear that you want to kill yourself. If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or ending your own life, it is important to get the medical help you require at this time. Please contact your local GP or you can call 999 or 112 to get some help straight away from the emergency services or you can present yourself at an A&E Department.   

You do not have to go through this alone. There are also other organisations out there that can assist you and there is some really useful information on these websites which may help you understand what is going on for you at the  minute:   

www.pietahouse.ie ; 

www.jigsaw.ie ; 

www.yourmentalhealth.ie . 

You might also like to read some articles on the Childline website, www.childline.ie/how-i-feel/ or you might find this one helpful either: www.childline.ie/how-to-deal-with-toxic-people-in-life/ .  

If you feel you cannot talk to someone close to you right now, please know that you are not alone. You can reach out to us at Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through web chat on www.childline.ie . Childline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can start a chat by clicking the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen on this site. Our services are free, non-judgmental, and confidential. Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk or chat, and we really would love to listen to you. Childline offers you the space to talk about whatever you choose. We really encourage you to reach out and we want to remind you again of how brave you are.   

Take care of yourself, 

Alex