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Why are my parents still married to each other

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Why are my parents still married to each other when they seem to fight a lot to the point where the police a involved, but still continue to be together when clearly things aren’t as good as the pretend to be?


Hey there, thanks for taking the time to write to us,


You are asking why are your parents still married to each other, when they fight with each other and the Gardaí are involved. You say they pretend things are good, when they are clearly are not.

It sounds like you’re dealing with a challenging situation at home, and we want you to know that your feelings are completely valid. It must be tough to witness your parents going through such difficult times. Sometimes, adults have complex reasons for staying together despite conflicts, and it might not always be easy for younger people to understand.

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge your emotions and recognise that it’s okay to feel confused or upset. Your concerns are valid, and it’s okay to look for support from friends, teachers, or other trusted adults. Remember, you’re not alone in this.

Families often face unique pressures, and cultural and social expectations can influence decisions. Your parents might be going through challenges that you’re not aware of, and they may be trying to work through their issues in their own way. If you feel comfortable, consider expressing your feelings to them, if you haven’t done so already. You may find this article helpful

Remember, taking care of your own well-being is very important during difficult times. Surround yourself with a support network and focus on activities that bring you comfort and joy. You deserve understanding and care as you go through this tough situation.

If you would like to talk about this some more, anonymously, you can chat to the Childline Team. We are open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. Or maybe you would like to chat about something else; and that’s fine too because Childline is here for you, any reason, anytime. Our phone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website , just click on the Live Chat tab.

Please look after yourself, and know we are here for you anytime,


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