Alex's Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex.

Thanks for sharing what’s on your mind today.  

You are asking what to do in an abusive relationship. Firstly, well done for reaching out. It sounds like you have a lot going on for you and we would be very concerned that you may be in an abusive relationship. Every child has the right to be safe and loved and cared for and looked after. You didn’t mention what you meant by “Abusive” but no-one in the world has the right to abuse you. 

You have the right to talk to someone about what you are experiencing, and you have the right to be listened to and to be respected. Do you have a trusted adult that you could share this with? Someone who you feel comfortable talking to, perhaps someone you’ve shared something with in the past? Often having a chat can help you to come up with a plan of action to allow you to move forward. 

You might find this article helpful as it looks at the characteristics of a healthy relationship: www.childline.ie/these-are-the-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship/ 

If you are not yet ready to approach an adult in your day-to-day life right now, then you could contact Childline through our web chat on www.childline.ie,  or by giving us a call on 1800 66 66 66. Childline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It is a free and confidential service. We are non-judgemental, and we will not tell you what to do instead we can help you explore what options may be available to you.     

Thank you for your question and we hope that you have found some of the above useful. You are not alone so please do contact us anytime you need to; it’s important to have a safe space to speak out.  

Look after yourself,   

Alex.