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What is normal mental health

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My mental health has been so bad for so long I don’t know what normal mental health is supposed to be like


Welcome to Ask Alex, 

Thank you for being open and honest about what is going on for you. By reaching out for support it is showing that you want a change and will work towards it. By getting your question out there you are not only taking the first step for you but, you are also showing others that are not ready for that first step that they are not alone. We can support and help others without even knowing that we are doing it!  

You have mentioned that your “mental health has been so bad for so long that I don’t know what normal mental health is supposed to be like”; that must be very hard for you. You have noted that your mental health has not been good for a long period of time; have you discussed this with anyone else? It can be useful to link in with your parents/carers or another trusted adult to provide what would generally be the first step to supporting your mental health, an appointment with your GP. Your GP will be able to discuss different options that are available to you and link you with service that will support you in reaching a positive mental health space and maintaining it.  

There are a lot of different services that may be able to provide you with support around questions you may have before linking with your GP. Jigsaw provide free one-to-one mental health support to young people aged 12-25 and they can be reached on Quite often your GP will be able to support you in finding the right path to help you in this difficult time.  

Little tips and advice around ways to improve mental wellbeing and mood can be found on the Childline website

The most important step would be to talk to your Parents/Carers. This will provide you with the support and guidance you will need to tackle this very difficult and important topic of your mental health, and how to get it on a better track for you.

You are not alone in this and those around you that care and love you will be there to support you every step of the way.  

If you feel you need support around how to open that conversation with your parents, you can always reach out to our Childline team. We provide 24/7 listening service that will help guide you but never tell you what you have to do. It is completely confidential, and you can freephone on 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chatat 

Keep talking and reaching out for the support that you deserve and that is out there to help you on this journey to better mental health. You are strong and have shown that by putting your question out there. Keep that strength alive and make that crucial next step towards a brighter future.  

Take care of yourself, and know we are here for you any time for any reason,


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