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Want smaller thighs

Your Question

Why is my bum and thighs big? I don’t want to draw sexual attention to myself. I don’t want people to sexualize me. I’m 12. I don’t want big thighs. I want small thighs. 


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex 

We want to begin by saying you are incredibly brave for reaching out to us.  It takes courage to ask for advise about something that is causing you distress.  

Your body is going through significant changes as you enter puberty.  One common aspect of puberty is the development of curves and changes in body shape, including the growth of thighs and buttocks.  These changes are a natural part of growing up and becoming an adult.  

It is important to remember that everyone’s body develops at its own pace and in its own unique way.  Your body is still growing and changing and its important to embrace and accept these changes as part of your journey towards adulthood.  Your worth and value are not determined by the size or shape of your thighs or any other part of your body.  

It’s understandable that you may feel uncomfortable with the idea of people sexualising you based on your body shape.  It’s so important to communicate openly with trusted adults such as parents, school counsellor, or another trusted adult about these concerns.  They can provide guidance and support in navigating these complex emotions.  

We would encourage you to focus on developing a positive body image by practicing selfcare. Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who appreciate you beyond your physical appearance.  

Remember if these feelings persist and significantly impact your wellbeing or self-esteem, it is important to seek outside support from trusted adults, as you may need professional help.

Our team in Childline are here for you too, should you feel you cannot talk to anybody you know just yet. Our 24-hour phone line is 1800 66 66 66 and it is free and confidential. Or maybe you would prefer to webchat with us, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at 

You are never alone on your journey, there are people who can help you through this stage.  

Take care of yourself, and don’t be afraid to reach out for support,  


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