Alex's Answer

Too shy to ask a teacher

Your Question

Can girls (me) like err cum like boys can? I just want to know! To shy to ask a teacher at schooll!! 



You are very welcome to Ask Alex. Thank you so much for reaching out with your question. You may be surprised to know that a lot of others may be like you in questioning different things about your sexuality and how your body works, so thank you for helping them out by putting the question out there.  

Your question is “can girls come like boys can?” It is important to find answers to questions about your body so that you are aware of and understand how your body works. It is common to be shy and not want to ask a teacher or others close to you about things you find difficult to discuss, but it is important that you do ask the questions. You will have sex education talks and presentations in school. It is so important to get the most out of these sessions, to ask questions, as these individuals will have an approach in which they can explain in detail the things you want to learn and understand.  

So back to your question and the short of it is that everybody is different, and they can have different experiences. However, both male and females can express fluids following arousal or a sexual encounter. You can find a lot more information on the HSE website It is important that you find the right information and that you can discuss these important topics. Having a trusted adult in your life that you feel comfortable with and that will support and guide you is vital. They will support you and give you the information you need to explore and find out more about the issues that are important to you, so don’t be shy. Never be afraid to ask the question. We all must find out the answers; we all have similar questions and curiosities. We all go through similar changes growing up and the individual who is your trusted adult would have gone through this too so don’t be afraid to ask.  

We hope that some of the above information has been helpful. Please remember that you can always reach out to our Childline team to go through any other things you may be questioning or wondering about but don’t feel ready to speak with any adults in your life. You can call 24/7 on 1800 66 66 66 or on Live Char at 

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