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Too nervous to ask

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i wanted to ask my mother for a vibrater but im to nervous to…i do masturbating but online u can see all these things about how toys give u more of a orgasm then just using your hands so i’ve always wanted to try one but don’t know how to ask my mum

Answer

Hey there, we’re really glad you reached out with your question!
 
It’s completely normal to be curious about exploring your sexuality, especially at your age. Masturbation is a natural part of discovering your body and what feels good to you. You may find this article helpful www.childline.ie/lets-talk-about-masturbation/.
 
It’s ok to be interested in trying out different things, like using a vibrator. It’s essential to understand how vibrators work and how they can be used safely. Make sure you are getting your information from reputable sites, and also know that not everything you see online is truthful or necessarily real. Here is an article which offers lots of guidance on the use of vibrators and ‘sex toys’ spunout.ie/sex-relationships/sexual-health/sex-toy-safety-guide.
 
We understand that talking to your mum about this can be nerve-wracking. If you’re not comfortable bringing it up with her directly, you might consider finding a trusted adult or mentor to talk to instead. They could provide guidance and support as you navigate this aspect of your sexuality.
 
Remember, if you ever need someone to talk to, the Childline team is here for you 24/7. You are never alone, and we’re here to support you and explore your options with you. You can reach out to us through webchat at Childline.ie, or on our free-phone number 1800 66 66 66.
 
Take care of yourself and keep safe,
Alex

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