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Thinking of Ending My Own Life. I Will Never be a Real Boy

Your Question

I want to kill myself. i’m trans and i will never be a real boy so what’s the point in doing anything. i’m always going to be trappped in this body


Hello and Welcome to Ask Pat. 

Thank you for taking the time out to contact us. We know that it can be difficult to talk about our feelings, but you have already taken a very brave step by reaching out to us.  You say you feel trapped in your body because you do not get to be the real you. This can be a really upsetting and frustrating feeling. 

You’ve said that you want to kill yourself. We would be very concerned about anyone saying that they feel this way. It sounds like there may be a lot going on for you at the moment, but remember, you have the right to get the support that you need.  

Is there an adult in your life that you trust and would feel comfortable talking to about how you are feeling? It may be a teacher, a family member, a coach, a youth worker or your GP. We know that it’s not always easy to share our worries and concerns, but we also know how important it is to ask for help when things are difficult. You have the right to talk to someone about how you are feeling.  

Pieta House offers support to people who are feeling suicidal. They have a free number you can call, and you can speak to a therapist. They also have a number you can text. You can read more about their services by clicking the link below:  

Belong To is another service you may like to contact. They provide information and support to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender young people in Ireland.  

The national LGBT Helpline can be contacted by calling 1890 929 539 or chatting online. Both services are open Monday to Thursday (6:30-10pm), Friday (4pm-10pm) and Saturday and Sunday (4pm-6pm).  

If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, you should call 999 or 112 or go to your nearest A&E. 

You can also speak to Childline. Childline is here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and it is free and confidential. You can call us on 1800 66 66 66, text us on 50101 or webchat with is through our website  

Thanks again for contacting us. We hope you find this response helpful. Remember, there is a lot of support out there and you don’t have to go through this on your own.  There are people out there who want to listen. 

Take care of yourself,  


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