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Support myself mentally and emotionally

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how do i support myself? i keep getting touched weirdly by older men (people usually like my moms friend) and i told her about it but she said it was ‘normal’ but that she’d tell him to stop. he didnt. shes seen me getting touched by my dad weirdly (not rape but S/A?) and she said she thought it was funny (i might of misremembered though) and its clear that i dont think she cares. how do i support myself mentally and emotionally when i have no support? (had friends. was cut off from them. wanted a therapist. not allowed because ‘itll make me worse’ and my mom used to use it against me)

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Hello, welcome to Ask Alex!
 
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to speak up about these difficult experiences, and we’re so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially when it feels like you don’t have the support you need.
 
Firstly, it’s important to know that the way you’re being touched is not normal, and it’s not ok. Your feelings and experiences are valid, and it’s concerning that your mom isn’t taking your worries seriously. You deserve to feel safe and respected at home, and what you’re describing is a form of abuse. This article may be of help to you www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.
 
When it comes to supporting yourself mentally and emotionally, there are a few things you can do. Finding small ways to care for yourself daily, like journaling, listening to music, or practicing a hobby, can help create moments of peace. It’s also crucial to find someone trustworthy to talk to, even if it’s not your mom. If reaching out to a teacher, school counsellor, or another relative is an option, they might be able to help you find the support you need.
 
It’s incredibly tough to travel this journey without the help of your friends or a therapist, but remember, you’re not alone. Childline is here for you and can offer support and explore your options. You can contact us 24 hours a day, every day, for free, at 1800 66 66 66, or by Messenger at www.Childline.ie (just click on the purple chat icon).
 
Lastly, if you ever feel unsafe at home, please contact emergency services at 999 or 112 immediately. Your safety is the most important thing, and there are people ready to help you.
 
Take care, and remember, there is support available for you,
Alex

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