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Someone wants to be in our friend group, but they make everyone feel bad

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What to do when there is a person who wants to be a part of your friend ground but she makes everyone feel bad 


Hello and thank you for contacting Ask Alex.  


We understand that sometimes it can be difficult to speak out about how we are feeling and asking for help, but you have already taken a very brave step by reaching out to us.   


You are wondering about how you should deal with a person who wants to be in your friend group but makes everyone feel bad.  We want to remind you that you have the right to feel safe and it is not okay for your friend to make you feel bad. You also have the right to express yourself and how you’re feeling, especially if you no longer feel that a friendship or relationship is good for you and is becoming negative or toxic.  


Have you thought about sharing what is happening to you with a trusted adult in your life, perhaps a parent, grandparent, aunt/uncle, teacher, or someone you feel comfortable talking to? You might feel better if you communicate the feelings you are experiencing to a trusted adult in your life.  


If you feel that you cannot talk to somebody you know just yet, then Childline is here for you, and we would really love to listen to you. At Childline we are focused on you and what is important to you. The services are free and available 24 hours a day. We do not judge anything you say. You can contact us through our telephone service by calling 1800 66 66 66 or by Live Chat that you access through the website: 


There are some articles on the Childline website which may also help you with the issue you are having at the moment: 



Thanks for your message, we hope you found this information helpful and please get in touch if you have any other questions.  



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