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Some of my friends are whispering and I feel left out

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Hi. All my friends have recently turned and started calling and now wanting to get weed. They are constantly whispering and me and others feel left out. I don’t want to do either, so have accepted that I will be left out, but I am feeling really down about myself. How can I get them to stop 


Hi there, you’re very welcome to Ask Alex and thanks for getting in touch. 

It sounds like you are having a hard time with some of your friends. You are saying that they have turned and now want you to get weed; they have started whispering about you and others and you are feeling left out.  You also say you don’t want to do weed so have accepted that you will be left out which has left you feeling really down and you are wondering how to get them to stop. 

We are sorry to hear that you have been dealing with this unkindness, it can be difficult when your friends put pressure on you to do something you don’t want to do. Nobody has the right to do that to you and it is understandable you are feeling really down. Have you talked to your friends about how you are feeling and the fact that you don’t want to start doing weed?  We know the thought of that might be something that worries you, but you have the right to tell them how you feel.  We are also just wondering if there is a trusted adult in your life that you could talk to? 

If you like to have a look on the Childline website, there are some articles on friendships that you might find useful, and they might help you to deal with your friends and also how they are making you feel. You can find them here 

You are also be very welcome to contact the Team in Childline if you would like to chat about this some more. Childline can be reached by calling 1800 66 66 66, or you can always choose to chat to us online at our Live Chat service on our website (just click on the orange Live Chat tab!). We are open 24/7 so you are welcome to chat with us any time that suits you. The service is free and confidential. You are not alone, Childline is here for you. 

Thank you for being so brave and getting in touch with us. 


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