To Pat / 11 July 2020
My sister is always treated different than me
My sister is always treated different than me but she is always been treated nicer Than than me what do I do because my parents always tell me to be like her like her a lot differ than than me what do I do because my parents always tell me to be like her like her a lot different I feel different but I am different and I feel different I’m not like her
From Pat / Day Month 2020
Hi, thank you so much for getting in contact with Ask Pat.
It sounds like you are feeling that you are being treated different in your family when you compare yourself to your sister. You also feel that your parents want you to be similar to your sister but you are very much aware that you are a different person.
Would it be fair to say that you have a lot going on, your relationship with your parents and your relationship with your sister? You do have a good sense of you by acknowledging that you are different from you sister, which is important.
I am wondering what would you think about chatting to your parents around how you are feeling being compared to your sister all of the time? If you were to feel comfortable having a talk with them, do you know a good time when they would be able to listen to you without other distractions? It may be helpful if you were able to have the chat with them and letting them know how things are for you.
It is important to us that you are happy in your home environment. You have the right to be listened to and the right to be respected. There are some articles on families and relationships on our website which may help you www.childline.ie/home-and-families/
Also, we have other services which are available to you free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can contact us by phone on 1800 66 66 66, or by text at 50101 and by web chat which is accessible through our website www.childline.ie. We can talk some more to you on this and the impact this is having on you. Or indeed, if you just want to chat with us about anything else, that’s OK too.
Remember, you have the right to be safe and the right to be listened to.