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Siblings fighting with parents

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How to deal with your older sibling fighting with you mam and your little sibling is watching and getting sad


Hello there, thanks for writing in.
First off, we want to say that we’re really glad you reached out with this question. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and it’s completely normal to feel upset when your family members are fighting. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to feel sad or confused about what’s happening.
It can be really hard when you witness arguments between your older sibling and your mam, especially when your little sibling is watching too. It’s tough to see someone you love upset, and it’s natural to feel caught in the middle or unsure of what to do. Remember, though, that the conflict between your older sibling and your mam is not your fault. You’re not responsible for their actions or their disagreements.
In situations like this, it’s important to take care of yourself and your own feelings. It might help to find a quiet space where you can take a few deep breaths and collect your thoughts. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or even a counsellor can also provide you with support and comfort during difficult times. Although this article is about parents fighting, the same guidelines can be taken for siblings and parents fighting
Additionally, it’s important to remember that there are people who can help you through this challenging situation. Childline is an excellent resource that offers support and guidance to young people like yourself. You can reach out to us at any time, day or night, to talk about what’s going on and explore your options. Whether you prefer to call us (1800 66 66 66) or chat with them online (Live Chat through, we’re here to listen and support you without judgment. We are open 24-hours a day every day. You can talk to us in confidence about your family situation, or anything else.
Finally, know that things can get better, and there are steps you can take to cope with the stress and sadness you’re experiencing. Finding healthy ways to express your emotions, such as writing in a journal, drawing, or practicing mindfulness exercises, can help you manage your feelings and feel more grounded. These exercises might be helpful for you and your younger sibling
Remember, you are never alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help. Take things one step at a time, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you need it. You’re stronger than you realise, and you will get through this.
Take care of yourself, and know we are here for you anytime

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