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Should I tell my Mum

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What should I do if my dad is touching me in my private place ? Should I tell my mom or be quite? I am afraid of telling my mom because I don’t know how she will react. Please help me with my question 

Answer

Hi there,  

Thank you for reaching out to Ask Alex with your question, you have been very brave in contacting us as we know it can be a hard thing to do.  

You have said that you are afraid of telling your mom that your dad is touching your private parts because you don’t know how she will react. If someone is touching your private parts this is a form of child sexual abuse or molestation. The most important thing to remember is that it is never your fault.

It is common for the adult who is abusing to try to make you feel ashamed of what has happened so that you will keep it a secret and not be tempted to tell anyone. However the only way to stop the abuse is to tell a trusted adult. If you have an adult that you trust in your life, whether it’s your mom, relative or teacher, let them know what’s happening. Here is an article on the Childline website, which you may find helpful www.childline.ie/what-is-sexual-abuse/.

If you’re not sure who you can trust or worry that you will be blamed or judged for what has happened, Childline is always there to listen and support you in making the right decision for you. You can call us anytime on 1800 66 66 66, or you can start a live chat on www.childline.ie by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. 

Take care of yourself,  please reach out for support as soon as you can,  

 Alex 

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