Pat's Answer

To Pat / March 2020

Topic: Slapped me three times

Your Question

I am going on holidays tomorrow but for the past few days my Mam has been shouting at me and not talking to me nicely
I tried to ignore it and spend time with my sister
But she not really helping
I went to my friends house overnight
When I got back she was even worse
She is saying that everything is my fault
She slapped me three times but I can’t tell if it’s because I am actually being rude or her but I’m not trying to argue

From Pat / 24 July 2019


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Pat, and thank you for contacting us.

It sounds like there is a lot going on between you and your mam. We would be concerned to hear that your mam is shouting at you, not talking to you nicely and slapping you. No one has the right to slap you and you have the right to be treated with respect. when you say that she says everything is your fault, did you ask her to exlpain this to you? you say you spend time with your sister, so it sounds like you get on well with your sister. you would have the right to chat to your mam and ask what is going on because it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time. you deserve to get answers because it sounds like you are a little confused by what is going on, when you say you cant tell if you are being rude or if it is her.

It might be helpful for you to talk a little more about this and we would be more than happy to chat with you.  you can contact us here 24 hours a day on 1800 666 666 and our service is free and confidential. You can also text the word TALK on 50101 and have your conversation by text.

We are here to listen, support and help you to explore the options that are available to you. So please feel free to contact us if you feel comfortable to do so.

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