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Scared of high winds

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Hey alex. So the whether is kinda bad here? Not too bad but strong winds, occasional rain, and clouds. (Its night right now) so my dad, went outside to put a like cover up so stuff won’t get wet (it started raining kinda hard) and he was working on it, and the solar panels fell half-way. (We live on a boat) so yeah. Usually he’d be like “are you okay?” Because I was next to them. I can’t tell if he was just too mad or if he just knew where he was. I don’t know.but anyways, it broke some wires when it fell apparently, and now we won’t be able to get power. (Unless we were gonna start the boat, which gives power.) But yeah. I’m still shaken up, and a bit, I don’t know. This month has just been, I don’t know. My sister visited (she’s kinda annoying. She left yesterday.) I don’t know. Between the wind (im scared of high winds. Once high wind pulled our anchor up and we were floating downriver. At least our neighbor on another boat called us, but yeah. (This was last year) and another time there were really high winds, and the boat wouldnt stay on, it kept cutting off. We had the sail up so we were leaning a lot, and we almost hit rocks, my dad had to call panpan (its like mayday, but you’re in immediate danger, like right that second. ) I mean we got out because I was terrified so I tried turning on the boat and it worked, but still.I’m scared of high winds. And I just want to live in a house. Houses don’t rock. Houses are safe. But we barely have any money. Hell, a few dollars is the last my dad has right now. But anyways. 

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Hi there,
 
First of all, we want to say that we are really sorry you’re going through all this, but you have been so brave by reaching out. It sounds like things have been pretty tough lately, and it’s totally normal to feel shaken up by everything that is happening and has happened.
 
Living on a boat can be a big adventure, but it also comes with its own set of challenges, especially when the weather gets rough. It’s understandable that you’re scared of high winds, especially after the experiences with the anchor coming loose and almost hitting the rocks. Those are really scary situations for anyone, let alone someone your age.
 
It’s also normal to feel a bit unsettled after what happened the other night with the solar panels and the rain. It sounds like your dad was focused on the problem at hand, which might be why he didn’t check on you right away. Parents can sometimes get caught up in fixing things and might not always show they care in the moment, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t concerned about you.
 
Feeling shaken up and wanting the stability and safety of a house makes a lot of sense. Boats can be unpredictable and move with the water and the wind, while houses stay still. It’s tough when finances are tight, and you cannot easily change that situation. You’re doing a really good job of handling a difficult situation, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.
 
It sounds like your relationship with your sister is tricky at the moment. Is there someone you can talk to about how you are feeling? Sometimes voicing your worries with a friend, another family member, or even writing them down can help a bit. It’s important to take care of yourself and find little ways to feel safe and secure even when things around you feel unstable.
 
We also suggest working together with your dad to create a plan for what to do in case of bad weather or emergencies. This could help support your worries and make you feel more prepared.
 
Remember, it’s okay to be scared and to wish for things to be different. You’re doing your best and you reached out for support, and that’s really important.
 
It sounds like you are living outside of Ireland, and unfortunately, we are not familiar with the services in your area. However, if you wish to talk to us some more here at Childline, you can chat with us through our webchat service by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at www.childline.ie.
 
Take care, and don’t hesitate to reach out again if you need more support,
Alex

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