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Rude gossip

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What should you do when someone is talking behind your backs. Something rude


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex!
We’re really sorry to hear that you’re dealing with someone talking rudely behind your back. It’s tough and can make you feel hurt or isolated. The first thing to remember is that you are never alone. It’s important to reach out to someone you trust, like a parent, teacher, or school counsellor, to share what’s happening. They can offer support and advice on how to handle the situation.
Sometimes, it’s helpful to gather proof of what’s being said. This might involve keeping a record of any messages or asking friends who have heard the comments to back you up. Having evidence can be important in avoiding situations where you might be “gaslighted” – where people try to make you doubt your own experiences or feelings. You may find this article helpful
If the rude comments continue or escalate, you have the right to report the behaviour. In serious cases, consider talking to the Gardaí (the police in Ireland). They can help ensure your safety and take necessary actions against bullying.
Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. The Childline team is here for you, to support you and explore your options with you. We are open 24 hours a day, every day. You can contact us for free at 1800 66 66 66, or by Messenger at Reaching out can make a big difference.
Stay strong, and don’t hesitate to ask for help. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
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