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Parents divorcing

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what happens when my parents go to court for a divorce?

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Hi there, thanks for getting in touch with Ask Alex!

Sounds like your parents are going to court for a divorce, and you’re wondering what happens. It’s great that you have reached out to us.  

When a couple gets a divorce, this means they are no longer married. There are lots of different reasons why this might happen and it is important to know that their divorce or separation is not your fault. You might feel a lot of different things when a divorce or separation happens. You might feel angry, sad, confused or even something different. All of these feelings are ok to have.

It can be difficult to know what changes will happen in your life as a result of the divorce, and it’s normal to have many questions. Your parents will work out some of the changes that will happen. If they can’t agree, then a mediator, solicitor, or social worker, might help them to come up with a plan that will work.  

It is important that you talk about how you feel and what you would like to happen. It can take time to get used to changes, and you have the right to support and to be listened to. Is there an adult in your life whom you trust to talk with about the divorce? It could be your parent/s, an aunt, teacher or anyone else you can think of. There are some useful articles on the Childline website which may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/divorce-and-separation/. Also, there is an organisation RainbowsIreland.ie who help and support young people whose parents are separating or divorcing.

Childline is here to listen to you too if you would like to talk to us. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and we are here to listen and help you explore your thoughts and feelings. It is a completely confidential to chat. Our free phone service is 1800 66 66 66  or you can chat with us through our webchat service, by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at www.childline.ie. 

Please remember that you are not alone, and we are always here to listen.  

Take care of yourself, and know that you do not have to go through anything on your own,

Alex 

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