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One of my friends doesn't like the other

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I have 2 friends one that I have always known but more recently became closer with and the other I’ve always been close with the more close one let’s call her b and the recent one let’s call her s ,b doesn’t really like s and is talking about her behind her back but I still want to be friends with both b and s I need opinions on this

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Hey there, welcome to Ask Alex!
 
It’s great that you’re reaching out and seeking advice on a situation that can be tough to handle. It takes a lot of courage to open up about this, and we’re here to help.
 
First off, it’s important to know that it’s perfectly normal to have different friends and relationships with different people. Sometimes, conflicts can arise, just like what’s happening between B and S. It can be challenging when someone you’re close to doesn’t get along with someone else you care about. 
 
There are two support services you can turn to for guidance in situations like this. One is “ISPCC Childline” which offers a safe and confidential space for young people to talk about their concerns. There are lots of articles on the Childline website which you may find helpful www.childline.ie/friends/. The other is “Jigsaw Ireland,” which focuses on youth mental health and well-being, providing support and resources to help you navigate challenging situations jigsaw.ie
 
Now, let’s talk about your friends. It’s important to have open and honest conversations with both B and S separately. Try to understand their perspectives and feelings. Encourage them to communicate directly with each other if they’re comfortable doing so. Remember, you can be friends with both of them without getting involved in their disagreements. You can also set boundaries by kindly asking B not to talk negatively about S to you.
 
In the end, your friendships are valuable, and it’s okay to want to maintain both of them. Just remember to prioritize your own well-being and try to promote positivity and understanding between your friends. The Childline Team is always here for you, 24/7, whenever you need someone to talk to or explore your options with. You can reach us be freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at childline.ie.
 
You’re never alone, and we’re here to support you through any challenges you face. Take care! 
 
Alex

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