Pat's Answer

To Pat / 29 Dec 2019

Topic: Not sure about sexuality

Your Question

My very good friend (a girl like me) and I have a really good friendship and share everything with each other. We spend a lot of time together in school and in our free time. We link arms, visit museums, eat at cafes, walk in parks and share everything. I don’t know if I am lesbian or bisexual but I feel like I love her. But I dont want to ruin our relationship by telling her how I feel if she doesn’t feel the same, what should I do?

From Pat / 20 Jan 2020


Welcome to Ask Pat.

In your email you mention that you have a really special friendship with another girl and you feel like you love her.

You also mention that you are confused about your sexuality and don’t want to ruin the relationship that you have with this girl by telling her how you feel in case she doesn’t feel the same.

It is not unusual to have strong feelings for someone of the same sex where you have a special bond but it can also be confusing. You might find it helpful to talk to someone about how you are feeling.

You can talk to Childline 24 hours a day on 1800 66 66 66, by texting 50101 (10am – 4am every day) or chat to us on this website (10am – 4am every day). You can also talk to the LGBT Helpline by phoning 1890 929 539.

For more information about Sexuality you can log on to or read more on the support pages on this website.

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