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Normal behaviour or not

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is it normal for middle aged men to touch and squeeze my thighs / knees and not stop even when i ask? my parent said it was normal for northerners to do so. he also makes a really annoying meow sound. like a cat screeching

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Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us with your question.
 
It’s important to know that your feelings and experiences matter. It sounds like you’re in a situation that’s making you uncomfortable, and it’s really brave of you to seek advice.
 
To start with, it’s not normal for anyone to touch or squeeze your thighs or knees if it makes you uncomfortable, especially if you’ve asked them to stop. Everyone has the right to personal space and boundaries, and those boundaries should always be respected, no matter who the person is. The behaviour you described is inappropriate and unacceptable.
 
It’s concerning that your parent said this behaviour is normal for northerners. Cultural differences do exist, but they should never justify actions that make someone feel unsafe or uncomfortable. No matter where someone is from, respect for personal boundaries is essential. The annoying meow sound you mentioned also seems to be a way of making you feel uneasy, which isn’t okay.
 
If you’re in a situation where an adult is not respecting your boundaries, it’s important to talk to a trusted adult, such as another parent, a teacher, or a school counsellor. They can help ensure you’re safe and address the behaviour appropriately. It’s essential to surround yourself with people who respect your feelings and take your concerns seriously.
 
Remember, you’re not alone in this. You can always contact us at Childline by freephone 1800 66 66 66 or Messenger at www.childline.ie (just click on the purple chat icon). We are confidential, non-judgmental, open 24/7, and always here for you for any reason, any time.
 
Take care of yourself and get in touch if you would like to talk some more,
Alex

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