Alex's Answer

My stepdad touches me where he shouldn't

Your Question

What should I do if my step dad touches me in the places he shouldn’t with out hurting my mum


Hi and Welcome to Ask Alex, 


We would like to commend you on your bravery in reaching out and looking for support with something that is a very difficult and a scary thing.  


You ask “what should I do if my stepdad touches me in places, he shouldn’t without hurting your mum”. We would be very concerned for you. It is so important that you know that no one has the right to inappropriately touch or place their hand on you or your body. It is very important that you tell someone what is happening to you, as you should not have to go through this, especially not on your own. It is vital that you reach out and find a trusted adult that you can talk to about this, it could be a grandparent, teacher, aunt or uncle, someone that you feel comfortable with, that will support and guide you. You say that you don’t want to hurt your mum, but it could hurt her more to know that you were carrying this on your own. It is important to reach out and get some support if not from your mum from another trusted adult.  


You have the right to report any concerns of abuse to the Social Work Department or the Gardaí. Túsla is the Child and Family Agency in Ireland, and they have social workers who work with children and young people under the age of 18 to ensure their safety. You can contact Túsla through or by phone from 9am-5pm Mon-Fri on 0818 776 315. If you are in immediate danger, please contact 112 or 999 to link with the Gardaí.


If you feel that you need to talk this out some more, you can always reach out to our Childline team. We are a non-judgemental service that will listen and explore options with you. You can contact us anytime day or night; it’s a 24hr service. Our freephone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website at 


We really hope that you get support and the current situation you are in changes for the better real soon because you deserve the right to feel safe and comfortable in our home. 

Look after yourself, and know you do not have to go through this on your own, we are here for you,


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