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My partner is pressuring me into intercourse What do I do?

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My partner is pressuring me into intercourse What do I do?

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Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex. 

Thanks for reaching out and asking your question.  So you say that your partner is pressuring you into having intercourse?  It sounds like this is a difficult situation for you. 

The most important thing to remember is that there is no specific time or date by which you need to have had sex. It is entirely your decision and if anyone makes you feel embarrassed or ashamed of it, they are not people you need in your life.  No one should make you feel like you have to have sex before you are ready. You are in charge of what happens to your body. Even if you are in a relationship with someone, they have no right to pressure you into any sexual activity. 

According to Irish Law, a person must be 17 years of age to be able to consent to engaging in a sexual act, and this applies to everyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation.  Consent is very important before having sex. 

When you do feel ready, it’s important that you feel safe, comfortable and respected by the other person.  There are also other things to consider before having sex such as the risks of STDs or pregnancy.   

You can find out more information about this at www.childline.ie/sexuality-and-relationships/.  There are lots of different articles on the subject! 

If you’d like to chat a bit more about this, you can contact us here at Childline.  We offer a 24/7 free confidential listening service and we’re here to listen to whatever is going on for you.  You can contact us on 1800 66 66 66 or via webchat at www.childline.ie .You can start a chat with us at anytime by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. 

Take care, 

Alex 

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