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My parents are growing ever more distant from each other, what do I do?

Your Question

What do i do if my dad and mom are getting distant from eachother im always fighting with my mom my dad fees shit about himself cause of my mom and my dad is also dying to pneumonia


Hi there, 

Thanks for getting in touch with the Ask Alex service; we appreciate you taking time to contact us. 

From what you’ve said, it seems like you and your family have been having a difficult time lately and it’s understandable if this has been tough for you. Thank you for trusting us enough to share this with us, as it can be a difficult thing to do. You’re wondering what you can do as you feel that your parents are becoming distant from each other and that this impacting on your relationship with your parents, and you also mention that your Dad is unwell. It sounds like a lot to have on your mind, so taking the decision to contact Ask Alex was a brave and positive step, as talking can help up cope better with tough situations. 

You have the right to get support, and talking about problems can be really useful as it can help you feel heard and listened to. Have you ever thought about talking to your parents to let them know how their arguments are affecting you? Sometimes the people in our lives do not realise the effect their actions and words can have on us. Maybe you would prefer to speak to someone outside your home, this could be someone in your extended family like an aunt or uncle or maybe a grandparent, or any adult that you feel comfortable talking to. It is important to know that all families are different, but you do have the right to feel safe and happy in your home.    

Remember, you’re never alone in this as Childline are always here to listen 24 hours a day, 365 days a year to all young people who feel they need someone to talk to. You can always reach out by phone or online chat at any time, and a member of the Childline team will be there to listen in a safe and non-judgemental space, just for you. You can contact through our freephone service by calling 1800 66 66 66 or by web chat that you access through the website Alternatively, we also have some articles on the Childline website that you might find helpful. Here is the link 

We hope this answer is helpful to you, and please feel free to get in touch again anytime. 

Take care, 


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