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My mum threatens to kick me out of the house what to do?
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My mum threats to kick me out of the house what to do? My parents got divorced a few month ago and my mum’s never been the best mum but when bringing my sis to ballet she asked about a movie I saw the other day and I said that I don’t want to spoil because we can watch it as a family and she got really mad and told me that I’ve been horrible to her for ages and if I don’t go to therapy she will kick me out and hand me over to my dad so she dosent have to deal with me anymore what should I do?Â
Answer
Hi there, thank you for your question. Â
You have told us that your mum has threatened to kick you out if you don’t go to therapy and you would like to know what to do in this situation. Â
Firstly, if you are under the age of 16 your mum cannot kick you out. It is the responsibility of both of your parents to provide for you and to keep you safe.  Â
Secondly, it seems like you and your mum may not have the best relationship right now, would that be right? It is normal to have arguments and disagreements with your mum from time to time. There can be many reasons for this, from disliking the clothes you wear to the people you hang around with. In your case, it seems that your argument stemmed from you not wanting to spoil a movie because you wanted to enjoy the movie as a family without them knowing the plot before watching it, which your mum did not seem to like. Have you spoken with your mum since the argument? How would you feel about sitting down with your mum, and express how you are both feeling about the argument? This can give you the opportunity to listen to one another while also trying not to interrupt each another. You could pick a time when you are both in a good mood and try and share how you feel with her.Â
You mentioned your mum wanting you to go to therapy, is this something you would like to do? For lots of people, going to therapy can be a big step to make but it is something that many young people and adults do. Opening up to a therapist may feel daunting and even exhausting at first but it can help you understand what’s going on for you and develop coping mechanisms in a non-judgemental environment. Perhaps you could try one session, and see what you think of it, and if it’s something you would want to continue with. It could be a space for you to talk about how you’re feeling in a confidential place.Â
We would like to chat with you soon about what’s going on for you, if you would like to give us a call. We are here 24/7, so you never have to be alone. You can contact Childline on 1800 66 66 66 or you can use our Live Chat service if you don’t feel comfortable speaking over the phone. This can be accessed at www.childline.ie (just click the orange tab on the right of the screen).Â
Thank you again for getting in touch with us today.Â
Take care of yourself,
AlexÂ