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My mum hits me hard with a wooden spoon and punches me and today she twisted my ear and pulled my hair what do I do?

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My mum hits me hard with a wooden spoon and punches me and today she twisted my ear and pulled my hair what do i do 


Hello, and welcome to Ask Pat.     

Thank you so much for contacting us. We know it can be difficult, but we also know how important it is for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.  

It’s very brave of you to contact us as we know it’s not always easy for young people to talk about things going on at home. The use of physical violence is not okay, and we are very concerned for your wellbeing.  

You have the right to feel safe in your home and it is the role of parents and caregivers to protect young people and children. It is important that you communicate to a trusted adult in your life about the lack of safety that you are experiencing at home. This trusted adult can be a parent, grandparent, neighbour or a teacher. 

If you are ever in immediate danger or harm, you can contact emergency services on  999 or 112  from any mobile or landline, free of charge.  Have you ever spoken to a social worker? If you would like to, you can contact Túsla – the Child and Family Agency. Their job is to make sure all children and young people in Ireland are safe and looked after. You can find more information about how Túsla can help you on the Changing Futures website. This was created for young people by young people with experience of Túsla services: You will see how to get in touch with Túsla here:    

If you do not feel comfortable having this conversation with the adults in your life right now, you can contact Childline to discuss this anonymously with a trained volunteer. If you log onto the Childline website - - there are 3 ways in which you can talk to us: live message, free text  5010  or free phone 1800 66 66 66. There are some articles on the Childline website which may also help you with the problems you are facing at the moment: ; ;     

We hope that you have found this information useful. Remember, you do not have to face this situation alone.  

Take care,   



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