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My mom puts my brother ahead of me

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hi my mom keeps putting my brother ahead of me and she always carries a knife with her I need some advice please


Hi, welcome to Ask Pat. 

Thank you for getting in touch today. You say your mum puts your brother ahead of you and that she carries a knife. You are looking for advice. 

It sounds like there’s a lot going on for you right now. You are very brave to reach out and seek help. How does your mum putting your brother ahead of you make you feel? We all have the right to be treated equally and it sounds like this might not be happening for you. You also tell us that your mum carries a knife with her. What is that like for you? You have the right to be safe in your home. If you ever feel unsafe at home or anywhere else, you have the right to contact the emergency services by phoning 999 or 112. You have the right to receive help and support about how you are feeling and what you are going through. 

If you feel that you cannot talk to your mum just now, do you have another adult in your life that you trust and can talk to? This adult can be another parent, an aunt, uncle, teacher, or a school counsellor. It is the responsibility of your parents and other adults around you, to make sure you get the help and supports you need and deserve.  

The Childline website has some articles which you may like to look at; would you feel about contacting Childline for a chat? Although we cannot give you advice, you can talk through your thoughts, feelings, and options with the Team 

Childline is here for you whenever you would like to talk or chat, and we really would love to listen to you. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66, by text on 50101 or through web chat on These services are open 24-hours a day, every day and are free and confidential. It is your space to talk about your home life, or you may prefer to talk about something else. The choice is yours. 

Remember, we in Childline are always here to listen and hear you. Thank you for reaching out to us. 

Take care of yourself. We hope to hear from you soon,   


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