Pat's Answer
My mom doesn't pay attention to me
Your Question
I wanna kill myself my mom doesn’t pay attention to me and only to my sister when I ask for stuff she always says “you don’t need that you have enough” but when my sister askes my mom gets it for her my sister doesn’t even need to ask my mom is always like “(name) look at that do u want it” it’s never me my mom hates talking about my birthday but loves planning my sisters my mom forgets about my birthday half of the time and I when I tell her about it she ignores me and when I repeat myself she’s like “oh it’s next week I know already” And yes I am a girl so it shouldn’t be so hard to include me in stuff too I just wanna kill myself my whole life has been like this and I don’t know what to do
Answer
Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Pat.
Thank you so much for trusting us with your thoughts. We know it can be difficult, but we also know how great it is for young people to share their problems. Talking about and sharing what is going on for you is a big step forward.
You are saying that you feel like killing yourself. We are concerned that you feel that way. You have the right to live a happy life. You mention that your mum doesn’t pay any attention to you but shows a lot more interest in your sister and treats her different, and it has always been this way. It is understandable that you would be hurt and upset and feel left out by your mum’s behaviour. We are sorry for what you are going through. You are very brave to contact Ask Pat today. You are taking the right steps in reaching out and seeking help. You have a right to get help and support. We would really like to chat to you more about what is going on for you. How would you feel about contacting us in Childline for a chat?
You haven’t mentioned your dad. Would he be someone whom you could talk to about what’s going on? If not, what would it be like for you to chat and explain how you are feeling to another trusted adult you feel comfortable talking to? This could be an aunt, uncle, teacher, or school counsellor. You do not have to go through this alone.
It is important for your mental well-being that you get the support you deserve. www.pieta.ie, www.jigsaw.ie; www.yourmentalhealth.ie; www.spunout.ie are just some websites that you could look at, which might help you understand what is going on or they may be able to offer direction of how you can avail of other supports. The Childline website has some articles too, which you can have a read through, www.childline.ie/how-i-feel/ and www.childline.ie/home-and-families/.
Childline is here for you and we really would love to listen to you. The Childline Team are waiting for you whenever you would like to talk or chat. You are welcome to talk to Childline by phone on 1800 66 66 66, by text on 50101 or through web chat on www.childline.ie. These services are open 24-hours a day, every day and are free and confidential.
We hope that you find some of the above helpful. Remember you have already made a great attempt in reaching out.
We hope to hear from you soon. Take care of yourself,
Pat